Ha, me too, it's worth blocking out! I think in that case, and with Blake too, the sex was a challenge: a way for Kalinda to win something, which she didn't always. It was very fraught and sometimes tipped over into "violence is sexy" which I didn't like, but at other points I think they did manage to keep it on the side of the line where Kalinda had to fight back with sex because it was her only (effective?) weapon.